Hedgehogs are cute, right?

I should probably have known what was going to happen the minute the girl on the phone said she'd check if Lisa could squeeze me in.

For starters, who the hell is Lisa? Kate cuts my hair, or Becky, if Kate isn't free, I've never even heard of Lisa before, she could be some girl they've pulled in from the chippy over the road for all I know. Also 'squeeze me in'? There are times I don't mind being 'squeezed in', at a sold out gig perhaps, on the tube, a cheerleader's slumber party, but not a hairdressers, definitely not. The only pressure I want the cutter to be under is the pressure that my eyes, loaded with fear, places upon them to do a good job.

But I want it doing today and I'm in a good mood, so let it pass and decide to take the risk, half remembering some tosh about doing something every day that scares you.

Well, very soon, scared is truly what I become. These people in the salon, I've never seen any of them before, what are they doing here, where are the people I've slowly learned to trust over the last few years, what the hell is going on? I've no idea, as far as I'm concerned these women could just be keeping up appearances out front while some kind of hostage situation takes shape in the back. That wouldn't be good at all, not only would they not know what they were doing, they wouldn't care about how they left my head, they wouldn't care how I felt about it either, which is definitely a worry.

I considered running, but I'm far too English for that kind of reaction, so here we go, eyes closed, palms sweaty, heart beating, let's just get this over with. It's all good to start with, it always is, until that moment. We've all lived that moment, you might not see it actual happen, and often it's better you don't, because a yelp of horror isn't something you ever want somebody stood over you with scissors to hear from you, but at some point, you will become painfully aware that it has happened. Your gaze will return from wherever it had been hovering, to the mirror, to your own head, to the unmistakable evidence that the cutting has gone too far and that this is not going to be rescued, not by a long chalk.

Of course once this has happened there's nothing you can do, no point in complaining, just nod and smile when necessary, pay your money, go home, have a little cry, start the healing process, possibly by pouring Miracle-Gro in your shampoo and just hoping the fortunes smile kindly on you this time.

Those who know me well will know it well that I'm ever the optimist, and in this case there is no difference, and I will tell you now that there is a plus side to a poor haircut. When you're in the pub, and someone pretty across the room starts looking at you, you don't have to go through the whole insecurity regime, don't have to spend time trying to work out if they fancy you or not, if you should go over, if this is your chance, finally, for true love, or at least a fumble in the corner, because it isn't, they don't, they want to know what the hell you've got on your head. Which is great, you can just get on with your night, no worries, no pressures, nobody think you're attractive right now, so you may as well just get get drunk and have a laugh with your mates. Everybody is a winner.

I'm aware that paragraph was something of an example of straw-clutching, but life can so easily get you down if you let it, and sometimes a silver lining needs a bit of stitching if it's going to hang on.

Tonight is New Years Eve, I'm so very glad I look my best.

Toby Jugs and Cockatiels

There's a building on the east coast I'm starting to become quite familiar with. It's a strange place for me to find myself travelling so far to visit, it's not somewhere I ever particularly want to go, it doesn't provide or host any services I have any use for, and while it is functional, it's not especially welcoming. It's not even in a town I have any real connection with.

As a kid, the east coast of England meant holidays, it meant 8 hours in the car with 2 parents, a brother and a dog, it meant fish cakes and spaghetti bolognese and then a walk to the harbour for waffles. It meant long afternoons finding hidden places on the beach after an hour on the putting green, it meant second hand shops. It meant evening strolls timed so the sun set as the fairground lights came into view, it meant pestering for coins to feed arcade machines, starting with copper, then in a few years silver, before finally we needed pound coins, which we needed to earn, or take as cheeky gifts from sneaky grandparents. It meant going to see the donkeys, not on the beach but up the hill, it meant never quite walking all the way to the lighthouse, and it meant making dad wait for hours while we splashed around in the swimming pools or rolled around in skates. It meant falling completely in love with girls from Skegness who'd entered beauty contests and bursting into tears because the fear of talking to them was paralysing, it meant going fishing off the pier and catching nothing but crabs*, seagulls and twenty pound notes that had blown out of pockets. It meant bingo at the legion, shandies outside the half moon, wrestling at the spa and football in the park.

Most of all it meant visiting Grandparents, staying in their houses, living by their habits, and largely destroying the small gardens they'd work hard to maintain with childish exuberance and ball games, and sometimes their neighbours gardens too.

These days, as is the nature of things, what the east coast means is funerals, and next Monday is another one, the last of the Grandparents, and hopefully now the last for some time.

I haven't made the trip to see my Grandad for a long time, mostly because he hasn't really been there. The man I looked up to, the man who probably taught me more about strength, respect, and to some extent stoicism, simply by being himself than anybody else has done with words, the man who played the disciplinarian selflessly to allow my gran to play the humanitarian, the man who made the best bolognese I'll ever taste, he hasn't been there for a long time now. As my mum said in a recent unguarded moment, we said bye to him a long time ago. I probably didn't do it as well as most, I've been busy, and lazy, and inherently selfish, and the east coast is a long way from here, but the old merchant navy sailor and club steward who raised five kids in a two up two down West Yorkshire terrace while keeping himself quietly to himself, only ever asking to be allowed to watch his cricket and read his paper, is still somebody I won't forget.

I'm not sad he's died, I'm glad he's saved himself at least some of the indignity of growing confused and helpless, because of everybody I know he'd have most hated being seen the way he has in recent months, and of feeling like a burden. I'm glad his children can now get back to their own lives without having to sleep in shifts to make sure he's safe in the night, and I'm mostly glad that my mum can now get on with making the most of being a grandparent herself without also having to be a nurse.

I just hope the funeral director gets his facts right for this one.

My apologies, I'm as uncomfortable as you about the serious blog, but it's done me a favour and I don't think many people read this anyway. If it helps take the edge off, I've had a proper shit hair cut today and I'm about to go to a stand-up comedy show where the compere is known for mocking his audience. I might have something fun to write about that tomorrow.

*Don't.

So this is the 28th of December...

That's right kids, it's an end of year 'state of affairs' blog, prepare to be utterly riveted with the story of my year, the story you've been waiting to hear, all year, a year to hear, but don't fear, don't shed a tear, it's here, for you to hear, the story of my year.

It's fun to rhyme.

I finish 2009 as I started it, cold, alone and essentially pointless. The way human beings are designed to be. I haven't made my fortune, I haven't found love, I haven't etched my name in the pillars of history. I haven't even got my own Wiki page, because apparently someone else has to set it up for you, and you have to have actually done something they consider important, or they delete you, which as far as I'm concerned goes against the whole spirit in which Wikipedia was conceived.

I did change one of my pillows though. One sprung a leak sometime in the autumn and after a few months of having a bedroom that looked like the crime scene of some kind of teddy bear massacre I finally bit the bullet and replaced the damaged head comforter. I'm still not entirely happy with the new one, it's too big and firm, it's exactly the same as when you change girlfriend, you get used to the shape and size of one, where your arms are supposed to go, how the best way to fit around each other is so you don't wake up with a kink in your neck, just how much force is needed to 'accidentally' kick them out of the bed if they're starting to bug you. Pillows and girlfriends, exactly the same.

Obviously the biggest thing I did this year is get a job, because obviously jobs are the most important thing in our lives, obviously. I got up one day, put on a suit and asked a reasonably intimidating panel of people if they'd mind awfully giving me over forty hours of things to do each week, push me to get out of bed before my natural body clock would allow, and judge me on all my successes and failures. I then followed this up by reassuring them that no, it was fine they wouldn't have to pay me too much to do this, just whatever they felt they could afford in these harsh financial times. After hearing the same offers from several other people they finally gave in to my charms and enlisted me in their little slave ring.

And you know what, I've quite enjoyed it, the actual work varies, as with everything, from a tedious and over pressured chore, to something I get a genuine buzz out of, sometimes I even go home feeling like I was useful, which is nice. Of course, as my work is connected to a place that serves alcohol it also means that I sometimes go into work hoping that whatever I've forgotten from the night before hasn't earned me Laughing Stock of the Week, but that's a hazard I've learned to live with all my life.

All in all though, it's a nice change to be working with other people, obviously there's all the expected nonsense about teamwork, new challenges, collaborative ideas and processes, six hour long meetings with flip charts, but really it's just nice to have a new set of people to have a laugh with during the day. So I think I'll stick at it for a bit.

Then there's this band thing, after a year repeating ourselves in various practice rooms we finally got on stage last month, and it was good. It's strange how twenty minutes as a bit part in an unpaid performance for a bunch of strangers seems to be worth a 16 hour day, of which a good ten is spent on a motorway burning expensive fuel and not getting home until almost sunrise, without any real questioning or feelings of effort. Whilst I will bitch and moan for a goodly number of hours about having to go buy washing up liquid from a shop which is 300yrds away. I've missed that though, I think I've missed the travelling more than anything, missed showing up at new places and not knowing what's going to happen. I'm not sure entirely why this appeals to me so much, I'm not an overly social person so I don't come away from these things with new friends and enlightening conversations that often, a lot of the towns and venues you end up in are less than exciting and quite often you find that your expensive and lengthy round trip has led to you playing to a nonplussed audience of other bands and bar staff, but no matter how many times you do this, the build up to each time doesn't stop being at least a little exciting. I'm looking forward to it in the new year at very least.

I moved back in on my own. I like living on my own, I like the control of my time and space that it gives me, I like deciding who I share it with and when, when I eat, what goes on the TV, how everything is arranged, and what point the bin really does need emptying, But it seems I had become a little used to having people around. It's fine during the usual weeks, because between work and bands and traditional going out patterns I only really end up at home one or two evenings as it is, and I can usually fill those with a quick text message or two, but I have to confess that the holiday's have been a bit of a trial, so I might have to think about this a little before the summer. I'll get to make a list of pros and cons for this, which is really quite appealing.

I must have done some other things this year, but the continuing curse of the memory can make it very difficult to say exactly what those things were. There was a weekend in London and a few night's at gigs, a couple of which were amongst the best I've ever been to. There was Edinburgh of course, the best week of any year, I think one of the greatest things about this is taking a few new people up every year, and watching them fall in love with the place, and with the fringe, in the same way I did the first time I went and the same way I do again with every visit. I'm not a person for looking forward to things usually, I prefer to just enjoy them when they happen without building up unfeasible hopes and expectations, but I just can't stop myself from doing that with Edinburgh, I've already got plans in place for next year and catch myself daydreaming about it on a fair number of occasions.

As for fortune, love and history? I'll probably just have a cup of tea for now. I really would appreciate it if you could get started on that Wiki though.